Spinsterina

With my last birthday I think I am now considered to be a spinster. I am ok with that, though I'm a bit young I think. Having consulted google and wikipedia. as you do during a crisis, I have established that a spinster is a woman who has not formed a human pair bond by the time she is approaching or has reached menopause and the end of her reproductive lifespan. I'm not at menopause age yet but it is not that far away and I can't argue that I haven't formed  a 'human pair bond' which I assume is another way to say that I haven't found myself a man. I also don't have kids.

So as far as I can see there are three areas that define you as a spinster are age, hubby and babies. Lets think about that:

AGE

Spinsterhood starts when you hit menopause it seems, I've got a while til that hits bur I've had more of my fertile  life than I've got left. I have tried to end it with the help of doctors but basically got told that I couldn't possibly know my own mind and that I was bound to be required to breed by my future husband. I was unimpressed by that. Choices about my body are my as yet non existant future husbands it seems. I should just be a good girl and keep my legs close until then I suppose!

HUBBY

I don't have one. It's not really one of my priorities. I'm not saying I wouldn't if I was in one of these 'human pair bonds' and it was important to him but I'm not out looking for one. Having organised a lot of weddings it's hard to see them as more than an expensive day that the girl gets to distract her from the reality of marriage which by far benefits him! As a rule I am happier single (apart from the sex bit but I won't sully this post with carnal matters).

No man is needed to complete me, I am complete - completely bloody awesome.

BABIES

I don't think I've ever wanted one. I don't seem to have that bit of me that goes all gooey with baby desire when I hold one. Kids are on the whole tiresome and babies are OK for a cuddle but do tend to ruin your outfit with vomit and pee and sticky hands etc. My instincts are more creative than maternal*. As for leaving a legacy I'm hoping that my words will do that. People forget shit and get the story wrong. There's enough kids in the world for it not to matter if I don't add to them.

So I think for me being a spinster has been a positive life choice. Im a bit young for it, a spinsterina if you will but I am reclaiming it as my badge of honour, a mark of my decisions, my desire to be independent and childless and creative.

*I nicked this, I can't remember where from to give credit though!